Being Single

Recently I’ve been noticing some of my single girl friends having heart problems. And something just hit me. I told myself “thank you Lord I’m done with all of that but I wish I could say something to them that will make their heart at peace.”

Well, I’ve only been married for one month. I guess my opinions would be a little half-baked for now. Nevertheless, here’s what I think. When I was still single and available, I can do whatever I want. I can go wherever I please and I can decide which direction I want my future to be.

However, there’s also the other side of the coin.  I can vividly remember when I was turning 25, someone told me that 25 is the age where you would find yourself wondering, thinking, asking “where did 25 years go?” It’s like you’re in a mid-life crisis!!! “Where is that guy? Where is my prince charming? Where is my knight in shining armour that will sweep me off my feet? Huhuhu”

Seriously, I’ve been there. I found myself really looking. I mean, it’s like wherever I go, be it in the jeepney, on the bus, at a party, in the office etc., there’s this whisper in my head saying “maybe you will meet him here?” And then when I don’t, I would feel sad and lost L

But God told me how being single can be fun, good and exciting! I guess I was blessed to have been surrounded with family and friends that showed me how to look at life. Before I turned to scary “30”, I was able to get my CPA License and Masters Degree, I was able to travel, I was able to do a lot of stuff that I never thought I would experience like surfing, mountain and wall climbing, scuba diving, , scary rides etc. I also did some writing, sketching and photography.

The most that really helped me to get through this “phase” is reading. I read a lot of books about being single, about relationships, about God etc.

As they say “Don’t look for the best person but be the best person.” You cannot live life thinking that you are incomplete because you are single. Being single doesn’t make you incomplete or being married makes you complete. You have to be complete on your own, with God. In addition, it is better to be single than be married to the wrong person! That would even be horrible :-(

Someone told me that when you get to the point wherein you can say that “God and You – is enough,” that’s the time God will give you the gift. It is because He knows that when you feel that, you’re dependent on Him for your happiness and that HE is your number 1.

To all my single girl friends, being single is a PHASE. It will come and it will go. So, as long as you’re there, just enjoy it, be productive, learn a lot and be a blessing. Because one day when you’re married, you will look back and you will say “Thank you Lord. I am a better person because I went through that phase.” And then you will look at your husband and you will say “Thank you Lord for this wonderful gift” ^_^